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Voici une anecdote qui illustre la question: au cours d’une émission de télévision à New York, la question fut posée à Claire et Jean, un couple de thérapeutes, qui avaient lu mes livres.
Claire répondit: « Avant de connaître Margot, nous pensions que le sexe avait lieu dans la chambre à coucher et que la spiritualité se révélait à l’église, le dimanche matin, pendant la prière. »
« Nous avons découvert, conclut Jean, que notre chambre à coucher est un lieu sacré où l’amour et le sexe se conjuguent comme une prière qui éveille l’esprit. »
Les thérapeutes disent souvent que notre première expérience amoureuse a une grande influence sur notre manière de vivre la sexualité.
La première fois que j’ai fait l’amour, ce fut une révélation cosmique, une transmission directe de l’illumination de l’esprit, ce que j’ai appelé une « illumination sexuelle ».
Ce moment d’extase a marqué ma vie. Ce fut une expérience si phénoménale, tellement au-delà de ma vision des choses et de mon conditionnement culturel, qu’il me fallut absolument chercher un moyen de retrouver ce moment de grâce éphémère, et l’inclure dans ma vie de manière plus pérenne.
La recherche du lien existant entre sexualité et spiritualité est devenue la quête de toute mon existence.
En essayant d’unir ces deux aspects, je suis devenue pendant trente ans une « chasseresse » d’extases, en quête d’un trésor caché à l’intérieur de mon esprit, de mon corps et de mon âme.
J’ai parcouru le monde, à la recherche des traditions où sexualité et spiritualité sont liées et se révèlent à travers les pratiques d’un « yoga de l’amour » où la joie du corps ouvre l’esprit au-delà du mental et de la pensée.
On pourrait dire que l’orgasme est alors la porte de l’extase qui n’est autre que l’orgasme de l’esprit.
Lorsque l’énergie (le moteur de la vie) et la conscience (le désir d’évoluer) s’unissent en amour, nous découvrons une alchimie sexuelle, qui nous emmène de l’instinct de procréation, à la fusion des cœurs, à l’illumination de l’esprit.
A ce moment d’intensité pré-orgasmique, l’énergie érotique amplifiée (souffle, voix, mouvement) se répand au delà des frontières du corps physique pour nous ouvrir à l’espace de la conscience élargie et lumineuse de l’extase.
L’alchimie amoureuse est une spiritualité incarnée où corps, cœur et âme se retrouvent dans un moment de lâcher prise qui est aussi une méditation: être totalement présent au grand Soi intérieur, à l’autre, sans projection, sans attente, en restant détendu même durant les moments de plaisir intense….
A ce moment, l’amant(e) est l’incarnation d’une présence sacrée qui révèle notre potentiel divin, notre capacité d’éveil à travers la présence et l’attention amoureuse.
Nous croyons souvent qu’il n’est pas donné à tout le monde de vivre ces dimensions. Au contraire, il suffit de le vouloir, de se renseigner et de désirer transformer la peur, la réserve, l’hésitation et tous les sentiments négatifs dont notre sexualité est imprégnée.
Il existe mille manières de nous éveiller au yoga de l’amour, même après 30 ans de mariage. Et même lorsque nous n’avons pas de partenaire. Car nous portons tous en nous, cette « graine d’éveil » qui nous inspire.
Margot Anand A la rencontre de l’orgasme divin – Amour sexe et éveil / Ed. Guy Trédaniel
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Allo Friends and Reader… I wrote this a few months ago, while in the USA.
What a day ! I am in the US and I am watching. What is happening here? I have the good fortune to be fairly plugged in. I meet many well respected and well informed writers and teachers and speakers. I teach at Esalen (Beyond Tantra…ah ah…we haven’t’ even started!)
I write teaching programs about bliss the awakening and the balance of the inner masculine and the inner feminine, the yin yang of ecstasy. Tantra and the Pathways to Bliss…. I am looking for ways in which Tantra could spread beyond the bedroom…But when I look around, besides a few privileged enclaves, I don’t see bliss…I see that the anti ecstatic current seems to be growing.
I saw young gifted people promoted to six figures salaries working for big corporations which suck their life juices night and day 24/7. And they come home dead, or so obsessed by their job that their sexual energy is out the door.
I see desperate mothers, who happen to also be brilliant high powered financial officers. And their boss sends them (important) assignments by iPhone even on Sunday while they (can’t even admit) that they are taking their kids to the zoo….I asked : “Don’t you have a right to have a day off ?” “No” they answer. This in the US doesn’t exist. Did you know that there are no (days off) in America, in the corporate world ?
Yet, my friends in Marin seem happy and creative. We all go dancing at the Open Floor dance on Sunday morning. I meet an old and dear friend there. Years ago,we had many adventures together…
He was a paragon of health. A man who was a top health consultant for the international power elite. Yet I find out that he is being treated for throat cancer. Amazingly, while he is receiving chemotherapy..(you know that’s the phase when they pump your body with poison to kill the cancer), he comes to the dance still. And he dances beautifully. I am happy to see that. I am proud of him. But then we go outside and take a break and he tells me this : He and another friend got the throat cancer because of being the victims of a transmissible sexual disease called the Human Papilloma Virus (HPV). It shows up as microscopic pimples on the surface of the cervix, in women, inside the vagina, and, presumably on the penis, in men.
How can that become cancer ? Why in the throat ? I ask my friend .
Unprotected oral sex, he answers.
I am amazed. You mean, you kiss someone’s sex, you have a great time, yet you catch HPV ? You live with it, without knowing, no symptoms, for years…and all of a sudden bingo…you get this cancer in the throat. What happened?
Well , my friend says, it may be released, suddenly, because the person’s internal bio-chemical milieu is too acidic and not alkaline enough.
But, I answer, you had a perfectly alkaline milieu in your blood and all ! So what ?
It could be that an operation at the dentist called for certain drugs….and I became acidic, who knows ?
What I know, says my friend, at least the doctor said so, is that more than 60-80 % of people here have this HPV and many don’t even know it. We all carry it.
Gee, I thought to myself, when is the last time I went for a gynecological check up ?…. Visions of a stethoscope sliding up my secret garden while the doctor peers inside. … And what can they see in there ? How will they see those microscopic pimples ?
I am soo glad I had such a great and free sex life starting in 1961… so long ago, so clean, pure, yet wild and ecstatic. The real deal. Mad with pleasure and laughter unleashed. No guilt whatsoever.
So now we are forewarned. No more mouth to sex unprotected kissing with different partners. How do the poly-amorous crowd do it ? You mean we have to do it through saran wrap ???
Just imagine…I can’t imagine…
Too late. The cancer has come for my friend. And so many others around here. Too late.
Maybe not. Maybe they can heal. Many have.
So what to do about it all ?
Last night I was invited to a lecture by a great up and coming new teacher who looks and feels enlightened and calls himself a mystic.
His name : Thomas Huebel. He is Austrian. His story : he was studying medicine and dropped out to go to the Hymalayas where he meditated and studied the writings and teachings of the great mystics for four years. Then he had an awakening.
His wonderful conference was about the importance of being awake and being in relationship as awake beings. Indeed.
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He mentioned tantra, briefly. And yoga. As possible spiritual vehicles in relationship. Stepping stones to awakening.
So I asked him to comment on this question :
“There is a mystical dimension in Tantra that teaches that the lovers scan pluck the energy of orgasm and channel it through their Inner flute” a central channel which moves through the chakras. Until this energy merges with consciousness at the crown and beyond and transforms into light and a feeling of oneness with all that is. Is that so ? Or is it an illusion?”
And he answered : “yes, it can indeed be a true spiritual practice and lead to this, an awakening. But we have to pay attention because in many cases, this high energy generates visions that are like movies in the mind and these are not spiritual awakening. But in other cases indeed this transmutation is an awakening. But this is just the first part. It still needs to be embodied.” I suppose Thomas meant that it needs to be actualized. That it needs to carry over into one’s life.
About this, Oscar Ichazo, another great mystic and the founder of the Arica school of mysticism states that, according to him, this practice is rarely achieved in a couple situation because it requires a high level of training by two beings who already are at the same level of spiritual practice.
I am convinced that a couple who would regularly practice the pearls of Skydancing Tantra, such as Riding the Wave of Bliss, would be able to reach high levels of awakening together. I know a few who did.
But the current obstacle here is our current life style. We are more than ever running around in a stress and a chaos because the corporatocracy is sucking our juices and demanding more and more money, more and more work to pay more and more taxes. Everybody here, me included, we are all busy with this. I entered the system. I owe debt on my credit card. Gee….
No time for sex….no time for intimacy….where did the tantra go?
Well, there is something else too.
Did you know that the major religions such as Catholicism and Buddhism are secretly organisations that propagate the joys of being or becoming gay ? Nothing wrong with is, in principle.
Yet, when a young man enters into the seminary and becomes a priest, no one in the church is there to teach him what to do with his boiling libido and his raging hormones.
In Bhutan, in India, in Nepal, it is said the the young monks who join the monasteries at 4 or 5 years old, have sex with one another. They all do. Its part of the process of growing up as a monk. « You’ve got to put it somewhere…
A high and well known Rimpoche in Dharmsala once told me that “We don’t want any babies running around, so we can’t do it with the nuns”…
Conclusion : through the anus nobody procreates.
How does it feel to realize that all those so called holy men and wise teachers are gay and that women don’t have much room in their lives…Imagine the Pope in the Vatican : surrounded by only men. An entire kingdom of just men, where nuns just hold menial jobs, mostly serving. What a world ! And I / we are taught to honor those saintly people who represent what exactly ?
Remember the Inquisition ? It is said that 30 million women were burned at the stake. By the Church. For ridiculous reasons. It was a massacre.
Well, did you know that the film who won the Oscar for best film in 2016 was called « Spotlight » ?
This film shows how a group of journalists for the Boston Globe uncovered the burried and hidden scandal of 90 priests which were pedophiles abusing the children in their parish. They were regularly transferred to other parishes every 3 or 4 years so their abusing tendencies would carry over somewhere else.
The story came out. It showed how this abuse of young innocent children, mostly boys, but sometimes girls, has spread in epidemic proportions. These priests cannot control their sexual energy.
249 priests and brothers were accused of sexual abuse within the Boston Archdiocese.
The number of abuse survivers is over 1000 people. It was proven that cardinal Law, knew about this epidemic of pedophiliac abuse of children in his archdiocese. As a result, in Dec 2002 Cardinal Law resigned from the Boston archdiocese. Unbelievably, the mother (mother ???) Church, reassigned him to the Basilica de Santa Maria Maggiore in Rome one of the highest ranking roman catholic churches in the world. The church has a unique way of rewarding its well deserving men!
Meanwhile, major sexual abuse scandals have been uncovered and documented in some 200 cities and locations all over the world. And it is said that some 6 to 10 % of the catholic clergy worldwide suffers from pedophiliac addiction. That’s a lot of people.
I once travelled on the plane from England to New York, sitting next to a very nice Jesuit priest.
When he found out that I wrote the Art of Sexual Ecstasy, we got to talking about sex, we did not stop talking practically the whole way.
And I remember him telling me that he genuinely loved God and joined the Church because of this love. But that He suffered immensely throughout his years of priesthood, because there was no one there to guide him and teach him how he could channel his sexual energy.
Would it not be so much better if all spiritual institutions developed and taught their own form of Tantra to their clergy ? A tantra that holds sexual energy as a sacred expression of life. A tantra that honors and respects others : whether adults, or children. A tantra that teaches how to channel sexual libido to the highest chakra and experience it as a blissful meditation ? This can be the androgyny path and does not require a partner. Why don’t priests and monks practice this ?
Much more to say. But I’ll stop here.
Paul Verlaine celebrated it in his 1889 poem Printemps as a “shining pink button”, but thanks to the sociomedical researcher Odile Fillod, French schoolchildren will now understand that it looks more like a hi-tech boomerang. Yes, the world’s first open-source, anatomically correct, printable 3D clitoris is here, and it will be used for sex education in French schools, from primary to secondary level, from September.
From Fillod’s sculpture, pupils will learn that the clitoris is made up of the same tissue as the penis. That it is divided into crura or legs, bulbs, foreskin and a head. That the only difference between a clitoris and a penis is that most of the female erectile tissue is internal – and that it’s often longer, at around 8 inches.
“It’s important that women have a mental image of what is actually happening in their body when they’re stimulated,” Paris-based Fillod says. “In understanding the key role of the clitoris, a woman can stop feeling shame, or [that she’s] abnormal if penile-vaginal intercourse doesn’t do the trick for her – given the anatomical data, that is the case for most women.”
“It’s also vital to know that the equivalent of a penis in a woman is not a vagina, it’s her clitoris. Women get erections when they’re excited, only you can’t see them because most of the clitoris is internal. I wanted to show that men and women are not fundamentally different.”
Fillod had been working with Toulouse-based V.Ideaux, creators of an anti-sexist web TV series, to create a modern sex education video when it struck her that the clitoris was never presented correctly in school textbooks. This catalysed her to develop her 3D model at the Fab Lab, of the Cité des Sciences et de L’Industrie in Paris.
Fillod’s 3D clit has come in the nick of time. This June, Haut Conseil à l’Egalité, a government body monitoring gender equality in public life, published a damning report on the state of sex ed in France. The report revealed that sex education is rife with sexism. Current official guidelines state that young boys are more “focused on genital sexuality”, while girls “attach more importance to love”.
Clitoris activism is hot in France right now. The feminist group Osez Le Féminisme has been vocal in combatting the silence around it since 2011. While in Nice, a group of sex-positive feminists, Les Infemmes, has created a “sensual counter culture” fanzine called L’Antisèche du Clito or The Idiot’s Guide to the Clit. There are funny drawings of “Punk Clit,” “Dracula Clit” and “Freud Clit”, as well as facts about the organ.
Meanwhile, jeweller Anne Larue has created a bronze clitoris pendant in conjunction with Les Infemmes artist Amandine Brûlée. “The clitoris has been the hidden, shameful organ for so long,” says Larue. “My necklace brings it to the light of day.” She reassures that the more timorous should not be worried about wearing it: “For the uninitiated, it looks like an octopus or a neolithic goddess.”
The Australian doctor Helen O’Connell is often credited as being the first person to show the complete anatomy of the clitoris to the modern world in 1998. In fact that achievement belongs to LA-based activist-artist Suzann Gage, who realised, while looking for images of the clitoris to illustrate a book called A New View of a Woman’s Body in 1981, that her best information came from medical textbooks of the 1800s – when anatomical drawings were done from cadavers. So images of the clitoris might have existed for a long time but, on realising that it played no direct part in reproduction, the medical profession chose to ignore it.
Fillod has hopes that doctors as well as school teachers, will use her sculpture to learn – and teach – the truth about the female body. “France has the reputation for being sexually sophisticated, but often it’s about male sexuality.” However, she is optimistic about the future. “Understanding that they have an erectile system just like men, I think women will start to experiment more. They will understand that pleasure is not some magic that only a partner knows how to give.”
“I’m full of hope,” this is how my friend and author of “Confessions of an Economic Hitman”, John Perkins, kicked off an interview he gave me in Costa Rica. What followed was an inspiring and passionate call to action; a plea to make corporations accountable and for the entire business world to be responsive to the people’s needs.
“The average orgasm is only ten seconds long. The average frequency of intercourse is once or twice a week. That’s twenty seconds a week, about one and a half minutes a month, about eighteen minutes a year. In fifty years, that’s about fifteen hours. For fifteen hours of ecstasy we devote how many thousands and thousands of hour to thinking about sex, worrying about sex, daydreaming about sex, wishing for sex, planning for sex?” -Alan P. Brauer, M.D., and Donna J. Brauer. ESO